Ten Keys to Successful Parenting

The following ten keys will help parents use methods that have been proven to provide children with a sense of well-being and security.

1 - Use Genuine Encounter Moments :- With our busy lives, we often pretend to listen or ignore our child's attempts to communicate with us. If we don't give our child GEMS throughout the day, he will often start to misbehave. Negative attention in a child's mind is better than being ignored. It is also important to recognize that feelings are neither right nor wrong. They just are. So when your child says to you, "Mommy, you never spend time with me" (even though you just played with her) she is expressing what she feels. It is best at these times just to validate her feelings by saying, "Yeah, I bet it does feel like a long time since we spent time together."

2 - Use Action, Not Words:- For example, if you have nagged your child about unrolling his socks when he takes them off, then only wash socks that are unrolled. Action speaks louder than words.

3 - Give Children Appropriate Ways to Feel Powerful:- Ways to help them feel powerful and valuable are to ask their advice, give them choices, let them help you balance your check book, cook all our part of a meal, or help you shop. A two-year-old can wash plastic dishes, wash vegetables, or put silverware away. We should encourage them instead of discouraging them.

4 - Use Natural Consequences:-  Ask yourself what would happen if I didn't interfere in this situation? If we interfere when we don't need to, we rob children of the chance to learn from the consequences of their actions. By allowing consequences to do the talking, we avoid disturbing our relationships by nagging or reminding too much. 

5 - Use Logical Consequences:- A consequence for the child must be logically related to the behavior in order for it to work. For example, if your child forgets to return his video and you ground him for a week, that punishment will only create resentment within your child. However, if you return the video for him and either deduct the amount from his allowance or allow him to work off the money owed, then your child can see the logic to your discipline.

6 - Withdraw from Conflict:- If your child is testing you through a temper tantrum, or being angry or speaking disrespectfully to you, it is best if you leave the room or tell the child you will be in the next room if he wants to "Try again." Do not leave in anger or defeat.

7 - Separate the Deed from the Doer:- Never tell a child that he is bad. Always try to encourage and give them positive approach. Encouraging them is the best way to make them successful.

8 - Be Kind and Firm at the Same Time:-Suppose you have told your five-year-old child that if she isn't dressed by the time the timer goes off, you will pick her up and take her to the car. She has been told she can either get dressed either in the car or at school. Make sure that you are loving when you pick her up, yet firm by picking her up as soon as the timer goes off without any more nagging. If in doubt, ask yourself, did I motivate through love or fear?

9 - Parent with the End in Mind:- If we parent in a way that keeps in mind how we want our child to be as an adult, we will be more thoughtful in the way we parent. For example, if we spank our child, he will learn to use acts of aggression to get what he wants when he grows up.

10 - Be Consistent:-If you have made an agreement that your child cannot buy candy when she gets to the store, do not give in to her pleas, tears, demands or pouting. Your child will learn to respect you more if you mean what you say.

Parenting Tips (over indulgence)

Overindulgence 
Build resilience by helping your son or daughter fight the little battles against pampering himself with food, phones, fads, computer and television. 
Help your child see at every opportunity that we should not build our happiness on things, but in generous love for others.
Model a positive attitude; avoid complaining and dwelling on criticism. 
Teach the virtues of working hard, of physical toughness and endurance. 
Make light of tiredness and inconvenience. Be mindful of the words of John Paul II about his own father: “He was so tough on himself he never needed to be tough on me”

Healthy Tips For Parents

1. Let children make choices."Are you in the mood for your grey pants today or your red pants?"
2. Show respect for a child's struggle.
3. Do not ask too many questions."Glad to see you. Welcome home."
4. Do not rush to answer questions."That is an interesting question. What do you think?'
5. Encourage children to use sources outside the home."Maybe the pet shop owner would have a suggestion."
6. Do not take away hope."So you're thinking of trying out for the play!That should be an experience.". . . .

Instead of Punishment
1. Express your feelings strongly
2. State your expectations."I expect my tools to be returned after they've been borrowed.
3. Show the child how to make amends."What this saw needs is a little steel wool and a lot of elbow grease."
4. Give the child a choice."You can borrow my tools and return them, or you can give up the privilege of using them. You decide."5. Take action.Child; "James is the tool box locked?"Father: "You tell me whv."

TIPS FOR PARENTS TO MAKE A CHILD DO HOMEWORK INDEPENDANTLY, EFFECTIVELY, AND SMARTLY.

Parents can give kids lots of homework help, primarily by making homework a priority and helping them develop good study habits.

Wherever kids do homework, it's important to make sure their workspace is:

1. comfortable
   
2. Ensure that a child has its stationary
   
3. quiet and free from distractions
4. If kids need a computer for schoolwork, try to set it up in a common space
   Focus on helping kids on the problem-solving skills
   
   Here are more tips to help make homework easier for kids:

• Establish a routine. Ask your child to manage time for homework, make a timetables, include HW list on To Do list and paste it on refrigerator or cupboard so that a child may remember their HW time.
• Managing time is very important for child which will help them complete their all work effectively and smartly.
  
• Keep in good contact with the teachers throughout the school year to stay aware of your child's progress. Don't miss parent–teacher conferences and maintain an ongoing dialogue. Teachers are one of the most important person in the world to build and develop child. Discuss main issues inwhich your child is having problem and discuss it with teacher how to improve your child.



• Don't forget the study skills. Advise your child to make flashcards or notes to remember important points for test, this is one of the most effective and smart way of study for test.


• Be sure your kids are writing down assignments correctly and encourage them to keep a daily homework notebook, which can help both kids and parents know exactly what assignments are due and when. Advise your child to list down the bullet points which teacher explains in the classroom.
• Whatever is taught in the school, make sure to revise and go through the points daily at home. In this way a child will have no problem in doing their Homework, preparing for test as well as their assignment.
  
• Encourage effort and determination — not just the grades they get.
• Be a good example by showing your own love of learning. While your child does homework, do your own — read books, magazines, and newspapers; write letters, lists, and emails

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Tips for Busy Families

The key is to schedule things in moderation and choose activities with a child's age, temperament, interests, and abilities in mind. Don't bind their mind according to your interest, be free with them and work on their interest and abilities.

Depending on a kid's age and interests, it's possible to set reasonable limits on extracurricular activities and make them more enjoyable for all.

Here are some simple suggestions and tips:

* Agree on ground rules ahead of time: For instance, plan on kids playing one sport per season or limit activities during the school week.
* Know how much time is required: take out particular time for them, at least 1 hour a day will try to make a lot of difference and positive attitude in your child.
* Keep a calendar to stay organized: Display it on the refrigerator or other prominent spot so that you may remember.
* Try to carpool with other parents to make life easier.
* Try to balance activities for all of your kids — and yourself
* Create family time: If you're eating pizza on the run every night, plan a few dinners when everyone can be home at the same time — even if it means eating a little later. Schedule family fun time, too, whether it's playing a board game or going on bike ride or hike.
* Set priorities: School should come first. If kids have a hard time keeping up academically, they may need to drop an activity.
* Know when to say no
* Remember the importance of downtime: Everyone needs a chance to relax, reflect on the day, or just do nothing.

Tips to save your child from Drugs (Substance Abuse)

* Get involved and stay involved with your child
* Know what your child is doing
* Know their friends and the friends parents and don’t be afraid to check in with them
* Tell your child what you expect
* Set the rules
* Be the parent, not just a pal
* Talk about risky situations and the best ways to handle them
* Stay informed
* Show your child you care by:
o Saying “I love you”
o Being careful not to be too critical
o Teaching what and why not to use
o Listening without interrupting and with your full attention

Provide Alternatives:

Visualise the reasons of your child's attenting to drugs.
Understand their problems include
Try escaping their pain, boredom, curiosity,
Aware your child about drugs
Talking with your child about alternative means of dealing with such challenges or difficulties.